Finding Your Romance in Christ

"Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing..." Proverbs 31:30a



Who Will You Choose?



I have been thinking on this post for a long while, but it seemed like every time I wanted to write it I would get interrupted. I want this to come from the LORD and since I have had a while to think on and write this I think it is He who is using my hands to write this.

Prince Charming V.S A Real Man

  To me, prince charming is a man who may look good on the outside but on the inside is full of lust and deceit and will only do a woman harm. He will promise you everything including changing his ways, but inside he just wants to use you and throw you out with the garbage. Is this the kind of man  you have in mind to marry?

  A real man is a man who sees the needs of others weaker than himself and is able to compassionately fulfill them or give it his best shot. He is kingly and gives his service as much as his orders. He is easily given to falling on his knees when he needs to talk to his LORD. He may fear many things but God is his comfort, shield and the giver of his strength and courage. He knows when to use his sword and when to put it away. He may not be able to give me the world, but he often talks with the Creator of the world and to me that is all that I need.

  I would rather have the latter man than the first, wouldn't you?

Finding Romance in Christ

  Many times throughout my life I have thought that one day this "perfect" man would come along and sweep me off my feet, we would never disagree, we would always be the "perfect couple". Now when I think back on those thoughts I want to slap myself silly. Really? I mean I was putting an awful lot of pressure on the man who is to one day be my husband. I hadn't planned on changing, so that meant he would be putting in all the effort while I took everything he gave.

  I have been given so much more wisdom since then (through various elderly people including my Father), although only a tiny bit compared to others. I have learned that in a marriage you have to give 100%, this sounds harsh to our human ears. But, did not our LORD do the same? He came and died for us giving up his life for ours, He gave 100%. Can we not do the same?

  I think one thing that inspired me to write this post, are all the young girls out there who think the same way I did at such a young and impressionable age. I want them to realize that first of all we need to take our focus off of marriage. We girls tend to fantasize a lot and more often than not this can be as bad for us as pornography is for men. Constantly thinking about marriage can be detrimental.

For us as young ladies what we need to be doing is focusing on our relationship with Christ, serving our family and learning all we can from our parents. Only then can we truly be ready for marriage and from what I have seen and heard about courtships, is that it will come when your not looking for it. So quit looking for it.

  I noticed a great change in my life when God asked me to give up the thought of courtship. Now don't get me wrong, I still believe that the LORD has a man for me, but I was always thinking about who or where he was or when it would all happen and I realized that instead of filling my head with scenarios about the future, I was able to be of a lot more use to my family, start my own business, and first and foremost be able to get closer to my LORD and Saviour Jesus Christ. When you give up the thing you "think" you want most in life, the LORD reveals the real treasure you had been looking for all along. God will bring your husband to you in His time, but be patient, don't wish time away, instead make it a useful learning period in your life.

  I am not perfect, in fact I am far from it, Christ has brought me a long way in my journey. I am so glad that I don't have to fill my head with thoughts of a man or romance, for right now God is my only romance. I will gladly accept the right man, when He comes along...but know that I am not out "searching" for him. I am out among friends and family doing what God has asked of me. I do gladly and willingly await the day that I can have the wonderful title of "wife" to a Godly man. But, if that takes several more years I am ok with that and you should be too.

   Don't be to quick to search for a Prince Charming, they are everywhere and easy to find, But waiting on a man of God to seek you out is the greatest treasure that can be found. I pray for all of you that you find your romance in Christ first and then you will be able to love your husband in a better manner than you ever could have before Christ.

  Look to God and His Word and you will find real romance, you will learn how to really love your future husband by loving Christ first!

Notes:

I'd like to thank Meggie for this great opportunity to be a guest writer on this blog, it is so inspiring to see other young ladies that are aspiring to be Godly Titus 2 & Proverbs 31 women. Keep up the good work!

You can read more from Elisha by following her on her own blog, she is the Daughter of Vision.

Independence Day

Tomorrow is Independence Day, the 4th of July, & for me this day means spending time with my family & sometimes friends, partaking in delicious food, enjoying each others company, & then after the evening has come, watching the brightly shining fireworks display that flashes over the corn fields near my Grandfather's home. But Independence Day means so much more. It represents the past, present, & the future of our nation. The trials & the joys we have persevered to overcome through the years. The pains & sorrows that have been brought to families to retain the freedom we so cherish & desire. Our past defines our future. Mr. Winston Churchill once said: "The farther backward you can look, the farther forward you are likely to see." I believe he was entirely correct. If we do not know of our past, then we are not prepared for the future.
Below are two pieces, one of poetry, the other of music, that speak very well in my opinion of Independence Day.
Thou, too, sail on, O Ship of State!
Sail on, O Union, strong and great!
Humanity with all its fears,
With all the hopes of future years,
Is hanging breathless on the fate!
We know what Master laid the keel,
What Workmen wrought thy ribs of steel,
Who made each mast, and sail, and rope,
What anvils rang, what hammers beat,
In what forge and what a heat
Were shaped the anchors of thy hope!
Fear not each sudden sound and shock,
'Tis of the wave and not the rock;
'Tis but the flapping of the sail,
And not a rent made by the gale!
In spite of rock and tempest's roar,
In spite of false lights on the shore,
Sail on, nor fear to breast the sea!
Our hearts, our hopes, are all with thee,
Our hearts, our hopes, our prayers, our tears,
Our faith triumphant o'er our fears,
Are all with thee, - are all with thee!

From The Republic from "The Building of the Ship"
by Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

I have heard how Christians long ago
Were brought before a tyrant's throne
And they were told that he would spare their lives
If they would renounce the name of Christ
But one by one they chose to die
The Son of God they would not deny
Like a great angelic choir sings
I can almost hear their voices ring

I pledge allegiance to the Lamb
With all my strength
With all I am
I will seek to honor His commands
I pledge allegiance to the Lamb

Now the years have come and the years have gone
But the cause of Jesus still goes on
And now our time has come to count the cost
To reject this world, to embrace the cross
And one by one let us live our lives
For the One who died to give us life
Till the trumpet sounds on the final day
Let us proudly stand and boldly say

I pledge allegiance to the Lamb
With all my strength
With all I am
I will seek to honor His commands
I pledge allegiance to the Lamb

To the Lamb of God who bore my pain
Who took my place, who wore my shame
I will seek to honor His commands
I pledge allegiance to the Lamb

Lyrics from I Pledge Allegiance to the Lamb.


God bless to everyone & their families,
Sarah Grace