Finding Your Romance in Christ

"Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing..." Proverbs 31:30a



Who Will You Choose?



I have been thinking on this post for a long while, but it seemed like every time I wanted to write it I would get interrupted. I want this to come from the LORD and since I have had a while to think on and write this I think it is He who is using my hands to write this.

Prince Charming V.S A Real Man

  To me, prince charming is a man who may look good on the outside but on the inside is full of lust and deceit and will only do a woman harm. He will promise you everything including changing his ways, but inside he just wants to use you and throw you out with the garbage. Is this the kind of man  you have in mind to marry?

  A real man is a man who sees the needs of others weaker than himself and is able to compassionately fulfill them or give it his best shot. He is kingly and gives his service as much as his orders. He is easily given to falling on his knees when he needs to talk to his LORD. He may fear many things but God is his comfort, shield and the giver of his strength and courage. He knows when to use his sword and when to put it away. He may not be able to give me the world, but he often talks with the Creator of the world and to me that is all that I need.

  I would rather have the latter man than the first, wouldn't you?

Finding Romance in Christ

  Many times throughout my life I have thought that one day this "perfect" man would come along and sweep me off my feet, we would never disagree, we would always be the "perfect couple". Now when I think back on those thoughts I want to slap myself silly. Really? I mean I was putting an awful lot of pressure on the man who is to one day be my husband. I hadn't planned on changing, so that meant he would be putting in all the effort while I took everything he gave.

  I have been given so much more wisdom since then (through various elderly people including my Father), although only a tiny bit compared to others. I have learned that in a marriage you have to give 100%, this sounds harsh to our human ears. But, did not our LORD do the same? He came and died for us giving up his life for ours, He gave 100%. Can we not do the same?

  I think one thing that inspired me to write this post, are all the young girls out there who think the same way I did at such a young and impressionable age. I want them to realize that first of all we need to take our focus off of marriage. We girls tend to fantasize a lot and more often than not this can be as bad for us as pornography is for men. Constantly thinking about marriage can be detrimental.

For us as young ladies what we need to be doing is focusing on our relationship with Christ, serving our family and learning all we can from our parents. Only then can we truly be ready for marriage and from what I have seen and heard about courtships, is that it will come when your not looking for it. So quit looking for it.

  I noticed a great change in my life when God asked me to give up the thought of courtship. Now don't get me wrong, I still believe that the LORD has a man for me, but I was always thinking about who or where he was or when it would all happen and I realized that instead of filling my head with scenarios about the future, I was able to be of a lot more use to my family, start my own business, and first and foremost be able to get closer to my LORD and Saviour Jesus Christ. When you give up the thing you "think" you want most in life, the LORD reveals the real treasure you had been looking for all along. God will bring your husband to you in His time, but be patient, don't wish time away, instead make it a useful learning period in your life.

  I am not perfect, in fact I am far from it, Christ has brought me a long way in my journey. I am so glad that I don't have to fill my head with thoughts of a man or romance, for right now God is my only romance. I will gladly accept the right man, when He comes along...but know that I am not out "searching" for him. I am out among friends and family doing what God has asked of me. I do gladly and willingly await the day that I can have the wonderful title of "wife" to a Godly man. But, if that takes several more years I am ok with that and you should be too.

   Don't be to quick to search for a Prince Charming, they are everywhere and easy to find, But waiting on a man of God to seek you out is the greatest treasure that can be found. I pray for all of you that you find your romance in Christ first and then you will be able to love your husband in a better manner than you ever could have before Christ.

  Look to God and His Word and you will find real romance, you will learn how to really love your future husband by loving Christ first!

Notes:

I'd like to thank Meggie for this great opportunity to be a guest writer on this blog, it is so inspiring to see other young ladies that are aspiring to be Godly Titus 2 & Proverbs 31 women. Keep up the good work!

You can read more from Elisha by following her on her own blog, she is the Daughter of Vision.

New Contributor!

I would like you all to give a warm welcome to miss Sarah Grace! It's been an absolute joy getting to know her this past little while. I can't wait to let you get to know her yourself. Please do check out her blog at Reliving a Legacy. So without further ado, here is a little from her about herself. :D

My name is Sarah Grace Kuhlman & I hail from Ohio, a place that is quite lovely with it's natural beauty. I have been raised in a Christian household with my two younger brothers. My brother, Josh, & I are homeschool graduates & my other brother Matt will graduate in a few years. I assist my Mother with the duties of teaching Matt & enjoy it thoroughly. I plan to homeschool my own children (if God blesses me with such a gift). I am an active member in my home church & I do such jobs as, singing as part of the Worship team, teach Children's Church, tend to babies in the nursery, write plays for Christmas & Easter programs, teach ASL (American Sign Language) to a group in the church, choreograph Christian Interpretive dances for the above programs, & always try to be of help to anyone in need. I adore writing, history, historic fashions, sewing (especially period clothing), historic & vintage films, reading (my Mother calls me a bookworm ), cooking, cleaning, learning about new things that might improve me, my Grandfather's farm, & my pets (cats, dogs, & rabbits), just to name a few. But most importantly, I wish to serve my Lord & Savior, Jesus Christ with all of my being. Someday I wish to be a wife & mother, but I plan to do all I can to be a witness for Him, no matter what the plans He has for me.

If you would like to contribute, there is more information in the sidebar. :D

Contributors aka HELP!

All right... with Christmas over and done, maybe it will be easier for me to get here and post. But it seems internet is still going to be a ways off...

So I need some help!

Would any of you be interested in becoming a full time contributor? The post would last for six months, but if at any time, you felt life was holding you back, then you could stop.

Your duties would include writing at least one inspiring post a month (On anything you like so long as it stays within the bounds of the scripture) , and perhaps taking over "Stay at home Sunday" for me once in a while. So, not too hard.

To apply please send an email to "Stayathomedaughtersfellowship[@]gmail[.]com" (Remove brackets), and tell me a bit about yourself along with your blog link, and a link to any post of yours that you believe truly shows your writing style.

If you are chosen you would be given access to the blog and you could simply post whenever you like! You wouldn't have to go through me.

Though I would have final say, if I feel a topic is too controversial or mean I may remove it. But I trust you as good Christian girls that you wouldn't make me have to do that, ;D

This DOES NOT mean I wont accept guest posts from any of you who feel they can't become a full time Contributer. You may continue to mail your posts to me at the address mentioned above.

This would be a great help to me in times when my hands are tied and I can't post, and it would truly get things goin here.

I hope to hear from you soon!!

~Meggie

P.S. don't be discouraged if you aren't chosen. This is a temporary post so keep trying and keep writing! There's always a chance you will get it next time, and you can always send your posts to me instead. :D

Contribute!

I’m in the market for writers!

As all or most of you have blogs, I know you can write to some extent!

You don’t have to become a permanent Co-author to contribute. (Though I’m open to that as well!) Remember that yummy recipe you made last week? What about that Titus two moment you had a few weeks ago with a Stay at home mom from your church. I’d LOVE for you to write about it. And if you’ll Email it to me, I’ll post it here with due credit!

My email is Stayathomedaughtersfellowship[@]gmail[.]com (remove brackets)

Write about anything "Comfortable and homey" that you want!

But please do! I can’t keep this going by myself.

I await your articles! I can already see some of the delightful posts you will send me!